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Is your child the victim of a Bully

We've all seen the news, reading newspaper reports, and discussed the real issues of bullying. For many of us, is simply

matter of saying: "I'm glad that has not happened to my son."

Or not?

Many Sometimes our children are afraid to tell us that are suffering.

This can be for a variety of reasons. They may be afraid that parents think them as being weak. They have been threatened that bad things will happen if they tell anyone. He or she may feel guilty for "making a fuss about nothing." Perhaps the child feels he deserves the bullying. They may also feel they can not talk to you.

There are a number of reasons why you may or may not know.

We will try to help you recognize the signs and help solve the problem of bullying in this article.

Harassment may include one or more of the following types:

verbal threats, abuse, being left out, insults, harassment, teasing, hitting, pushing, and ignoring.

If we look in the list above and think back to when you were in school, you may refer to one or more of these things happening to you
or someone you know. The degree and effect of these actions have on a child determines the action that we as parents need to take to help.

What to look for:

1. Bruises, cuts or scratches,

2. Sudden fears

3. Excessive headaches and stomach aches

4. Nightmares

5. Bedwetting

6. Fear of going to school

7. Changes in eating habits

8. Changes in sleeping habits

9. Withdrawal

10. Faulty goods or missing

11. Pretending to be sick to stay home from school

12. Mood swings

13. Abnormal amount of calls from the school they want to go home sick

If you see these signs, do not jump to the conclusion that there is a bully in life of his son.

Think of other things that may disturb
his son. Has there been a divorce in your family? Is there a new baby? Have you recently moved?

If the answer is bullying can be a difficult issue for your child to talk. How do you approach the situation will make all the difference in the way that will be rectified.

Try a soft approach. Your child may refuse to be intimidated. This can only be an excuse to avoid talking about it. Let them know that no boy
deserves to be bullied. Also, explain that bullying is more than physical actions. Review the types of bullying with their children.

When they feel they are in danger, assure that asking for help is not tattling.

Your child may be too distressed to talk about it. Try to Avoid pressuring give them all the information together. Let him know you want to help and is willing to listen anytime he / she wants to talk.

You can upset yourself about intimidation, but beware. It's OK to tell your child that you are upset or angry, but calm. Your child will feel sure if you know that you are in control of his emotions and situation.

Whatever you do, do not dismiss bullying as just a little joke.

Your child might be feeling a lot of stress. When a child is being bullied, whether verbal or physical, is humiliating and can damage self-esteem and mental health in general.

Sometimes there is another child who is being the aggressor, which might be an adult. For example, it could be your teacher, a neighbor, father or mother of a friend. In any case, the tread lightly as you discover the problem. Once you know the abuser, you must have a plan to defeat the problem.

The key is to ensure that your child feels secure as a remedy to the situation of harassment.

If you've determined that your child has become the victim of a bully, then you must intervene and correct the problem.

The question is, how?

It is difficult to reason with a bully. Children tend to be very concerned with poor social skills and tumultuous family situations. Most of them crave affection and acceptance.

Please advise your child not to "fight". He or she may get hurt. The very nature of bullying is that it is performed by a person or a group of people who have power over their victim in some way -- either physically, through size or strength or numbers, or psychological, through surprise or manipulation. Children who are bullied feel powerless in such situations and have very little chance to defend himself.

Bullying must be stopped as soon as possible. The longer it continues, is more likely that the child will be the target of hurt both mentally and physically. Some victims eventually begin to express anger toward children younger and smaller, or more violent.

Since the majority of bullying at school instead of his son, we focus on fix a problem exists. In no way does that mean you can not apply some of the principles we are talking about in other areas that bullying can take place. The first thing to do is to discuss what his intentions with his son. Your child may already feel humiliated and may feel worse if you do something at school to embarrass him Or her.

Reassure your child that help is available and that this is not something that will have to face alone. Tell him that you speak to school, but not cause a scene or embarrass them in any way. Discuss possible solutions with your child. Discuss all possibilities, no matter how some may be unrealistic. Speaking through it may help to think of good possibilities.

Get a clear picture of your child about what has been happening. Who has been doing the bullying? Where and when? How often? Witnesses?

Have you told anyone? Take notes so you can refer to them when you talk to the school.

If you feel that the situation is an emergency and you feel your child is mentally or physically threatened, you should immediately contact the school and set up a meeting. If a school resource officer, he / she was present. Parents of bullies should also be at the meeting. The fact of the matter is that the harasser's parents often deny the problem. They can advocate for your child and rationalize the behavior. Be prepared for this and stay calm. Keep the meeting focused on your child and end the intimidation.

Think about what you expect from the school and ask what the school will do to stop the harassment. Let them know that you and your child would like to do. IE: Make sure that complaints are taken seriously and the complaint is kept confidential to protect the child. They suggest that more oversight is provided during recess and in hallways. Instruct staff to keep an eye on those doing the bullying, and adults to supervise the areas where harassment has occurred.

Ask the school to send a copy of its policy on bullying and ensure that procedures are being followed. Also request that you receive a copy of the contents and the recommendations of the meeting in writing.

A great way to deal with a bully situation is "avoid." Teach her the children on how to avoid the bully. Make your home walking down a different route each day. Stay close to the teachers in the yard. Come within the time shown in the neighborhood bully. Finally
the attacker lose interest in their son.

Sometimes it can help to talk to other parents you trust. Ask if any ever had to deal with bullies and how it handles.

In some situations, the actions of your child may be unwittingly inviting the bullying. The child The objectives of the bully "is typically small for his age, sensitive, quiet, and very much appreciated by adults. victim of harassment may not have many friends, children so others are not likely to come to his defense.

A child who feels vulnerable is more likely to make fun of them. It is possible that recent changes been her home and family life, such as the birth of a new baby, or separation or death in the family, which can have your child feel more vulnerable. Talk of family problems and hear how your child feels about things. A child who feels heard and understood will be more able to cope with the situation.

We found through our research that often a child who is doing the bullying has some problems themselves. There is something caused to act the way they do. They can be bullied, or have been in the past. Many times it is from your own home. Part of the solution to bullying problem is trying to help the bully!

Although you can not change what has already happened, there is much you can do to help your child feel better and avoid being bullied.

The largest and most powerful is to build self-esteem and confidence. Bullies will be weaker targets.

The following are some basic strategies you can share with their children:

Ignore the bullies

Walk to the bully

Refusing to fight

Ask support

We wish you good health and happiness for you and your family!

Steve McChesney

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